2008: Many Failures = Great Success

I believe it is incredibly poetic that I started the year 2008 in front of my computer in Alabama and the final hours will be in front of a computer in my childhood home. I started the year unsure on so many fronts I thought it would just be easiest to stay in for the night as a subtle surrender to the crazy unknown world, however I end the year working on one of my deepest passions and 100% knowing I control my own life and I sit in front of my computer by choice.

In totality this year was so much more challenging and difficult then my greatest year of uncertainty 2006.   In 2006 I had only one goal to move down to Alabama by rugby season. I was lost in a mind of confusion and self-doubt for much of the year.  I applied for jobs in Birmingham and just sat reading, watching movies and working out, waiting for my phone to ring or e-mails to come to my inbox. Neither came because of my lack of action that was all tied into my low self-esteem. Thanks to the generosity of my uncle Ralph and aunt Trish a trail was blazed to Alabama in October of 2006.  I moved 700 miles away and made a dream a reality. I do not think it was a coincidence that less then six weeks later the idea to write a book popped into my head for the second time in my adult life. I started  writing, but by the time I had compiled 40 random pages I had convinced myself that no one cares about my college years and how I perceived them.  Between November 2006 and November 2008 I started and failed to complete seven books.  The books included two about college, a fictional character goes on his last road trip, a book about trying to figure out life, a fictional book about dating, a book I called Rathjeisms and a book about figuring out your new body once you have a disability. I just realized something, going with the biblical quote in Proverbs and the ancient Asian saying I fell 7 times before I rose to start writing  Don’t Be Afraid to Eat Soup with a Fork And Other Lessons from the Gut.
 

My biggest failure this year was I did not qualify for the 2008 Beijing Paralympics. In retrospect, I worked extremely hard, but I did not succeed because I wasn’t ready. There are so many things I am at peace with in my life that I never used to be, however training for the Paralympics was not one of them. Sure I trained 10-12 times a week meaning many days I would push up the hill to Lakeshore twice a day, but I did that out of fear of failing I did not do that out of faith. When the teams departed for Beijing in the later part of August a calmness came over me because they were on the plane and it was over.   Beijing didn’t happen, but London will.   A member at Lakeshore asked me the day after everyone departed if I planned to go to London.  For the first time ever, instead of my typical response I hope so. I said I’ll be there!  The path is still foggy  because I’m not at the level that I need to be at for either sport, but I know I will get there. 

I’ve never had much faith in myself, but it is growing thanks to a very interesting circle that has developed. I have a strong belief in God and everything good in the universe. I know a vast majority of my ideas are gifts from the universe. I wholeheartedly believe in my ideas. If God and the universe see it fit that I be blessed to be a megaphone for its glory, maybe I’m a better person then I have ever given myself credit. I’m 100% sure that this logic can be applied to anyone. All human beings are worthy and lovely creatures. Pump yourself up if you are down or bring yourself back to Earth if you think you are greater than others.

Outside of sports another weakness has been my interesting mix of social skills. With the dual purpose of getting the word out about my writing and coming to grips with my entire life I have sent out more e-mails and friend requests on facebook then ever before. In today’s day and age I realize there is no reason I must keep my thoughts to myself. If I think of someone or something there’s no harm in writing a paragraph or sentence to send out good energy in the world.   As I have previously written, thanks to John Mayer, I realize life is so much better when you “say what you need to say.”  I hope everyone out there figures out the best way for them to communicate and they find the courage to communicate freely. I cannot reiterate this enough, there is nothing special about me I just got to the point where I was fed up with aspects of my life and I realized it was completely in my control to change it.

When talking about friendship I find it very fitting to share with you my last sleeping dream of 2008. I entered a movie theater with some people, as we approach the seats they go to the last row of the theater rather than sit up front with me. I just kind of sit there baffled as I sit there alone. Before I know it the entire theater fills up with people many of which I do not know. As the last seat in the theater is filled, the movie theater morphs into a mini version of my favorite stadium in the entire world, Huff Hall. A pep rally breaks out and my greatest cheerleader for the past 8+ years my incredible friend Dave joins me in the front row and makes the entire crowd keel over in laughter thanks to the assistance of his large microphone.

This dream had some metaphors in it. Just like the ideas of frequency and music we should find people who like to sit in the same part of the theater as we do.  It is most politically correct for me to sit in the front, but I want to surround myself with people who are not embarrassed by me dragging myself to the top row.  Dave has done more fireman carries and other acts of sheer will to help me eat the soup of life then anyone. We all have our cheerleaders and people to sit next to but sometimes it takes patience and a willingness to go about your life pushing forward regardless of the circumstance.

Now it is time to thank my copious amount of supporters.  The first thank you goes out to my guardian angels. I know I have many passed family members and friends who are looking after me as well as my man Brenden Foster as vessels sent to me by the universe.

I would also like to thank the wonderful people at fiftypeopleonequestion.com It has been an honor to get to know Benjamin Reece and I look forward to getting to know the rest of the crew in 2009 and beyond. This blog and my career would not be where it is without your influence.  They are geniuses and their voice needs to be heard by the entire world.

Thanks to Judy Vorfeld, Daryn Kagan and the people at Chicken Soup For the Soul for being the first people to professionally  believe in my writing.  2008 has also been the year of the virtual friend. I have made more connections without actually meeting people then ever before. Thank you our new friendships have been an honor and  a privilege so far.  Facebook continues to amaze me and I am excited with more people joining my group every week.

Thank you to my amazing Lakeshore family, my biological family, and my entire rugby family and  all  the other brothers and sisters I have collected from Lester elementary school, Herrick Middle School, Downers Grove North,  University of Illinois, Northwestern University  Medill IMC, Birmingham and this odd and wonderful dance we call life! 

Even though I failed early and often in 2008 it was the greatest year of my life. This year I realized I 100% control my life. Speed bumps are  a certainty, but that is our chance to prove we really want something.  If anyone ever has a time of challenge, email me at chris.rathje@gmail.com  I will do my best to help. We are all in this together!

Towards the end of 2007 I met a great young director named Jared Goodman.  He asked me what I wanted to accomplish and I told him to get some real momentum going in my life. I knew if I became a more consistent person and believed in myself more I could become a force of nature.   I joked there is earth, fire, wind and Rathje. I know together we can accomplish great things.  I’ve come up with a new analogy.  Lets all get on a rocket train together. Horizontally we can bust through anything that comes, like a freight train, and vertically we’re headed to the top in a way never seen before. 

I’m really excited for 2009! In complete honesty I don’t fully believe in myself yet, but I do fully believe in my ideas. I have to succeed to show the blessings I have been given have merit.  Lets all walk together in faith, belief and love to promote positivity one step at a time.

Thanks to all the faces in the crowd that have been such wonderful support and all those blank faces in my dream that I’ve yet to meet.  We will sit together and make beautiful music with lyrics that anyone can do anything being sung often!

Thanks 2008 it has been a blast.  Hello new friend 2009, the best year yet! 

Thanks for reading!

Chris  

 

The Big Ledger

I came up with this idea about six years ago and it just popped back into my head  out of the blue today. Nothing I will be talking about has any absolute nature to it whatsoever. These statements are all just ideas.

Digest whatever you like and if it helps at all, great. I'm sure most people are aware of the concept of karma, the idea of what comes around goes around and you cannot escape the energy you create. I know the law of attraction and similar ideas are absolutely true, but I've learned they don't work in a linear fashion and at times can be hard to predict.

From my own experiences and talking to several friends on this topic it is particularly difficult when you're good to a person or group and they betray that goodness with negative actions of some kind. In my younger days there is no question I did not deal with such situations well, but learn from my mistake and meet most actions with peace, calmness and positive actions.

As part of the condition of being human, petty actions happen all the time. Find  the courage and strength  to rise above it. 

A few weeks ago I came across a beautiful song by Kanye West called Street Lights.  Throughout the song there is a beautiful metaphor about faith, taking chances and possibilities  that we don't fully understand. A lyric that is constantly repeated is "Life's just not fair" and after many days of consideration I agree with Mr. West.  Life is not fair, but it is beautiful.   In a fair system 2+2 always equals 4, but that is not how karmic math works.  Karmic math is so complex we can't fully understand it, but we must have faith in it. 

As I am putting together my next post, which will be my last of 2008 I have brought myself to tears a couple times this afternoon.  I do not cry often, my eyes have been dry for the entire fall and winter, however I can't help it when I think of Brenden Foster.  He was so much smarter then me and he didn't get the chance to be a teenager. I figure Brenden was so much better then us God needed him to work along side him in heaven

I don't understand God's big ledger in heaven, but I am thankful for the beautiful page I have been given.  There is little question that Brenden's page did not balance, but it was one of the most beautiful pages in the massive book of credits and debits.

I ask that if someone wrongs you, let it go.  Sing your song and ignore the interference.  Let somebody greater then us do the accounting and focus on accumulating credits of good that make your dreams closer or helps your fellow man.

Lets start a new math together full of love and persistence!

Thanks for reading

Chris

Is That Possible?

I had a great experience today.  I had the opportunity to visit the neighborhood where I used to live during graduate school. My favorite extracurricular activity during those years was to go to this amazing movie theater right down the street from where I lived.  I loved it so much because it is the only movie theater in  suburban Chicago that gets every independent movie you can think of. I love independent movies  they usually speak to me more. In about 15 months of living there I'm guessing I went to about 40 movies.

I had it down to a science that if I left my apartment 17 minutes before the movie was supposed to start I would be able to get in a seat in the theater right as the trailers began. The most interesting and adventuresome part of the 17 minutes was  going up the escalator in my wheelchair.

If you would have asked me four years  prior to living in Evanston if I could go up an escalator by myself I would have told you heck no. 

Sometimes though peer pressure is exactly what the doctor ordered to change a belief for the good.  I was a freshman at the University of Illinois and we were trying to catch our flight at O'Hare. Everybody else on the wheelchair basketball team was taking the escalator and I had no clue how to do it. I had to figure it out quick because no one was going to take the elevator with me.  Many attempts over the next couple years would not have won me many style points but they got the job done. I'm not sure where that turning point was but at some point I became proficient and escalators became  a preferred tool of movement in airports, train stations and my favorite movie theater.

At one point towards the end of my time in Evanston my friends Adam and Therese came to visit and we saw a movie.  As we were leaving the movie theater using the down escalator a lady on a cell phone using the up escalator stopped her conversation in mid-sentence and said rather loudly "Is that possible!"

A 19 year old version of myself  would have said that it is impossible.  Many others have seen some of my maneuvers as impossible or dangerous.  However I ask that we broaden Snoop Dogg's wisdom.  "Don't put limits on your life" or other people's!  If you see somebody in public do something that is out of the ordinary chances are they have done it before.  Politely offer help or offer a silent prayer of encouragement, but please restrain from comments of discouragement.

I promise you anything is possible especially when you are willing to eat soup with a fork.

God Bless

Chris

 

Forgive Me for I Have Sinned

 I am very disappointed with my own behavior this afternoon. I ate  a wonderful lunch at my favorite restaurant, but afterward I accomplished next to nothing. I was dragging after a hearty meal and sat in front of a computer not really accomplishing anything else the rest of  the afternoon.  I just clicked on this or clicked on that and determined I was not in a place mentally where I could discuss any of the big topics I currently had on my list.

It probably would have been wisest to just take a nap, but instead I wasted at least a couple hours playing mindless online games. Since starting the blog I've been very proud of my time management skills, but there's no question I sinned today.

Someone might be asking "Chris isn't that a little too harsh to say you were sinning just because you wasted some time?"  It all depends on the definition of sin that you use and the perspective that you take. I humbly ask you keep an open mind while I examine the word sin.

When looking up the word sin in the Google powered dictionary the definition was simple           "estrangement from God."   However over the last several months thanks to Eckhart Tolle I have become aware of another definition when looking at the ancient Greek translation sin literally meant " to miss the mark."

Ever since God has blessed me with this blog I have had little to no missing the mark because I have big goals and I have sent them out into the universe. I've been so focused, this once huge NBA fan completely forgot the Celtics were playing the Lakers on Christmas Day because I was too busy writing between family functions.

I guess that's why I'm so frustrated I missed the mark today. I had no real reason except lack of focus and a little bit of self doubt that I wasn't ready to tackle some of the bigger topics currently on my list. I can understand the perspective that I was estranged from God because I was not providing productive work this afternoon, but in the grand scheme of things God knows better than us that we will sin.   So I humbly ask aren't we being estranged  from God when we expect ourselves to be perfect at all times.

My point is we must work hard to accomplish our dreams and that is why God ultimately wants,  but we must also have the faith to miss the mark occasionally because that is all part of God's plan.

I hope I salvaged a less then perfect situation.

Thanks for reading

Chris

Far From Sparta

Today I had the opportunity to see the movie Doubt. Meryl Streep's character was  very compelling to me. There were many times throughout the movie she showed great strength. 

My favorite line in the entire movie was something to the effect "In ancient Sparta whomever spoke the loudest won the argument, luckily we are nowhere near Sparta." The character delivered this line in a very calm and cool manner. Regardless of what other people were doing there was no question she was under control.

This quote excites me because it reminds me of my mission that peace, love and thought will always win out. We might live in a media age where the provocative sound bite is currency  on some airways, but we also have the great privilege to live in a time where we have forums of publicly controlled discourse of the highest level and we control certain segments of the media in a way never before seen on this planet.

Always believe in  calmness of argument, peace during disagreement and love for your fellow man because it will win out and allow us to all reach our dreams sooner!

Thanks for reading

Chris

Inexperience Is an Experience

This post is dedicated to my amazing friend Denny Muha. I had the honor to play  wheelchair basketball with Mr. Dennis for two years while at the University of Illinois. We bonded over our trips to the late-night cafeteria full of semi-philosophical conversations and a wide variety of Coca-Cola products.

As one of my last rites of living in Illinois I took a trip to Champaign about two weeks before I moved down to Birmingham in 2006. I had a wonderful time during the shenanigan filled weekend, but something Denny said during a mellow Sunday afternoon conversation has always stuck with me.

I was hypothesizing with Dennis about whether or not I had wasted my college years. I was a very scared kid in more ways than one during my college years. There was no question I was a driven person, but looking back I was more afraid to fail then desiring to win.

A perfect example  is how I studied 16 hours over a weekend for my first ever marketing test. This was not a final just a regular test. Other than eating in the cafeteria I locked myself in my apartment for the entire weekend.  I got 100% on the test, but could I have gotten 100 after studying for just 12 hours and then work on other skills during the other four?

When I had this conversation with Denny I was extremely concerned that my social skills were lacking in some way and going to a new place where I knew practically no one was daunting.

Denny was extremely wise in his response.  He said something to the effect "Sure you didn't go to many parties and some of your skills might be unrefined,  but your inexperience is an experience. You never know when something you read locked in your apartment three years ago could come in handy down the road."

 A specific example does not come to mind but I know Denny's words are the truth. His wise words  can be applied to so many lives. We can always attempt to rebuild a bridge  with someone, but outside of that there is little we can do to change our pasts. Use what you know to make the best future you can. No matter who you are you have experiences so use them to push forward and  make your dreams come true!

Peace and love to all my friends and a special thank you to Denny!

Chris

Reflections

During my November 2008 visit to Memphis I had the honor to go to the Stax Museum, which chronicled the once famous musical label based in Memphis.

The last exhibit I viewed I believe was a special exhibit that was completely based around photographs. Many of the photographs were set up in clear plastic frames which allowed for something very special to occur in my eyes.

On one wall was a picture of Martin Luther King Jr. on a perpendicular wall  was a picture of one of the first famous African-American disc jockeys.  I apologize I do not know his name at the moment.  However  when I looked at the disc jockey's photo a very unique visual experience occurred, because of the frames it looked like  you could see the disc jockey thinking about Martin Luther King Jr.

I'm sure this is not a stretch, I would bet the disc jockey thought of Dr. King often as he was also a leader and voice for the same group of people. I know I carry around many people with me everyday through my thoughts. There is no visual proof of it, but it is still a fact.

My point is simple. Never underestimate your own actions because you never know who is carrying you around in their head. As our legacies  live on in the form of other people's memories don't we all want to be remembered for positive actions of love like Dr. King?

Thanks for your love,  I love everyone

Chris

What Is a Disability?

Even though I'm about to try to answer the question how I see fit. I also humbly ask the question to anyone who is willing to submit to the debate.

I have friends who do not appreciate the word disabled at all. For whatever reason it does not bother me. In general, labels don't bother me for the most part. I know I have my weaknesses in certain areas but this is not the forum  for that discussion. Other people I know appreciate phrases like differently able, but that does not appeal to my sensibilities. Isn't every person on the face of the earth differently able from everyone else?

I know this is a inefficient, but I usually take the time to fully describe my circumstances especially for people I've never met in person. I always start out by saying that I use a wheelchair to get around. If further explanation is necessary I go on to explain my hands don't work so well especially in dynamic situations. In the rare case this is not enough I also explain I deal with balance issues and muscle spasms.

I rarely mention I have cerebral palsy to people who have limited disability knowledge because I have had some very odd reactions in the past. On multiple occasions I have had people tell me  that I am lazy or there is something wrong with me because I can not walk. Strangers  have told me they know someone else with cerebral palsy and they can walk, so I should be able to as well. Some do not understand that cerebral palsy is a very broad term.

Can't that be said for disabilities as a whole? My "disability" has given me so much.  A short list of attributes includes a tenacious attitude, a wiser spirit and  a passion for wheelchair sports that has pushed the rest of my existence on this wonderful planet. 

I will freely admit I do many things poorly compared to norms.  However I ask a simple question.  Who is more disabled when washing clothes?  A  man who refuses to get off the couch and help or someone like myself who will offer the productive contribution of poor loading skills and atrocious folding skills anytime he is asked.

Food for thought.  Thanks for reading!

Chris

Clear The Mind & Push It Forward

I would like to dedicate the first part of this post to Yanik Silver, Steve Pavlina and Jack Canfield. I would like to dedicate the second part of this post to God and the universe to for continuing to inspire me with wonderful topics.

Clear The Mind

Right before Thanksgiving 2008 I was reading several pieces by the three previously mentioned authors and it allowed me to realize for the first time in my life how important it is to clear my mind. Paraphrasing something Mr. Silver said " you're better off finishing 20 things then working on and not finishing  50 things." Since the conclusion of my Thanksgiving holiday I have taken this to heart pushing forward to accomplish tasks. 

In congruence with this I started a Thought Book in August 2008. It is a modified journal that works the way my brain does. No one has ever really seen its contents and would have a hard time understanding it with my unique lack of penmanship. However both practices has allowed me to clear "mindspace." (Mr. Silver's phrase)

Quite ironically in my younger days I hated to write things because of my lack of fine motor skills.  This resulted in a pretty good memory that led my friend Josh George to give me the nickname Steel Trap.  At one point in my college basketball career I could tell you the score of every game I ever participated in. That skill has diminished significantly as I write more things down and use my brain more for creativity and less for memory.  The more I commit to clear out "mindspace" for creativity the more I am rewarded with wonderful ideas.

Push It Forward

Last night I was extremely diligent in clearing "mindspace". I wrote down every single idea I had in my head in the Thought Book. I even rewrote  a couple topics that have been lying dormant in my thought book for some time. I peacefully went to sleep and was awoken by loud thunder sometime in the five o'clock hour this morning. As I jolted awake I saw the words Pay It Forward accompanied by some unique shapes. I interpreted this as pay it forward in a new way.

Pay It Forward is a 2000 movie starring Kevin Spacey, Helen Hunt and Haley Joel Osmond where students are taught to do a good deed for someone else if they have been the recipient of a good deed.

I hypothesize  that we throw Pay It Forward into hyperdrive.  We Pay It Forward before we are ever the recipient of a good deed. This will create numerous spontaneous good deeds that will have an impact on society and the good karma will also impact the lives of those that are selfless. For my part, I have many objects in my parents home that I no longer need.  I plan to do a lot of donating to charity in the days to follow. 

Please only do what you feel is right, but I have little doubt that this simple yet powerful idea is due solely to my clearing of the mind. What would your mind be capable of today if you took the time to clear it?

Just a humble suggestion filled with love.  *Please know I am open to suggestions.  If anyone has a better name for Push It Forward or other ideas please feel free to email me at chris.rathje@gmail.com 

Thanks for reading!

Chris

Want to Be Healthy? Be Happy

For the rest of my life I have the lofty ambition to always be in a relatively good mood. Once again I humbly ask if an 11-year-old who is about to lose his battle with cancer can figure out a way to have fun.  Do any of us have an excuse to not be in a good mood? 

I am certain there are numerous medical studies  that back up my beliefs, but I'm not a doctor. I am a guy who sits around and thinks  and then he talks or writes about his thoughts.  The best way for me to get my point across is to give you some anecdotal evidence from my life.

To the best of my memory I have only been in a sustained negative mental state twice in the last 12 months. The first time was  during the middle of January. I just returned from a rugby tournament  in Florida  where I played below my expectations. I felt the germs in the air and I focused on sickness. Before I knew it I had a terrible cold and was bummed out that I was spending my birthday completely alone sick in my apartment.

I have little doubt I created the situation by negative actions.  The  second time I created a negative outcome for myself was when I decided to work out on a Friday night in late April. I became so frustrated on multiple fronts in my life that I became angry. This is a very rare occasion for me but there is no question my frustration level had reached a point where anger is the proper word to describe my emotional state.

Before I knew what hit me I created the worst sports related injury of my life. About eight months later I'm still recovering,  but I've learned a very valuable lesson and it will never be replicated again. I have noticed that when I tell people this story in person  some people believe me and some do not. I promise you that I speak nothing but the truth. 

On at least three occasions this past year I fought off colds before they even began with the health and strength of my thoughts. Always remember you are a child of the universe and with joy in your heart anything is possible.  Always focus on your health and strength.  There is no danger or negative consequence to being happy!

We can all live in health and happiness!

Thanks for reading

Chris 

Seeds of Imagination

 The picture you see here is the basis for my first consistent imaginary friend.   His name is Ruf Ruf and he is a country dog!

I think I've been a pretty creative kid  ever since I can remember but my first consistent imaginary friend was born on January 14, 1990, my eighth birthday. My parents took some of my classmates and I to Chuck E. Cheese and at the end of the afternoon my buddies put all their game coupons together so I could get Ruf Ruf. 

It was not in the cards for me to get a real dog so I was going to make one up! He slept with me that very first night and our adventures began in my dreams. 

I know this is an area where kids are superior to adults. Kids are not afraid to think outside of the box to make life more fun. Life is supposed to be fun!  If an 11-year old  can remember to have fun and give back to others when he is losing the battle with terminal cancer. Do any of us have an excuse not to have fun?

I will concede that the path I have chosen allows me a great deal of freedom to think outside the box. Coming up with Wilson the writing worm a few days ago was  just another day at the office for me, but I'm sure everyone of us can find three minutes a day to make something new that gives us chuckle.

I didn't think I would bring this up for a long time but the wonderful voice inside my head is telling me that it is a good idea. At my elementary school it was customary for kids to eat outside on the playground when it got warm enough.  It was one of the first days of playground lunch in fourth or fifth grade and I had finally achieved enough upper body strength where I was able to get in and out of my chair off the ground with no assistance.   I decided it was time to use this skill to sit down on  the asphalt in the customary lunch circles with everybody else. As soon as  I touched the ground a whole lunch circle of several kids decided to get up in unison and leave me sitting by myself for lunch. This was a very scarring experience but a beautiful flower arose from it. I vowed never to make fun of anyone for something they couldn't control.

In all honesty I have failed this promise to myself on several occasions especially around my early teen years however it gave me the freedom to make many jokes and tell many stories about complete figments of my imagination. Who could be offended when I make fun of the invisible kid named Wolfgang!

My point is no matter what your age is have the courage to think outside of the box and be silly. However I beg you please do not be negative or gang up like the immature ways of our past. Create a new joke that can be shared with any friend. Inclusive is a word that bonds us all together.  Responsible joy is the name of the game!

The most important story I've shared is the selfless act of my birthday party attendees. They worked together to pool their resources  and plant the first seed in my beautiful imaginary garden. Thank you everyone for cultivating this land with me. We will change the world together with our creations!

Thanks for reading!

Chris

Happy Boxing Day!

Today in many places throughout the world December 26 is known  as Boxing Day. The general idea is to box up things you no longer need and give them to the less fortunate. I think this is a wonderful idea and the spirit should be adopted every single day.

Of course there is logic that some are more fortunate than others,  but I believe we all have our needs that only others can provide. Someone who has a large amount of monetary resources can still be broke inside.  Please do not get caught up that giving has to involve tangible items. 

If  you give your ears for listening or your mouth for a friendly greeting  you can start a trickle-down effect that cannot be measured. Who knows? That friendly greeting to a busboy could lead to increased productivity which then leads to a promotion. Never underestimate your own ability to give.

 I know I constantly question my own talents, but I also know I carry sunshine with me wherever I go and whatever the weather is outside. There is no talent involved whatsoever.   I simply  have a smile on my face and a willingness to say hello to whom ever I come across.

Please get ready to give today and everyday.   There are no boxes necessary!

May we all be blessed today and everyday!

Chris

The Premie Paradox

As the honesty train rolls through Downers Grove and out into the universe here is one more issue in my life that I can't figure out.  I call it the Premie Paradox.

I was born two months premature. This resulted in my lungs being underdeveloped which meant I could not breathe and resulted in cerebral palsy.  In a topic for another time cerebral palsy is a real gift that I would not change but that does not mean frustrations do not occur.

Since I was a premature baby I spent much of the first few weeks of my life in an incubator. Most might find this odd but it sticks with me until this day. Incubators are two things to me bright lights and plastic boxes closed off from the world.

For many years I had a fear of flying but it took professional help to realize what was really bothering me was the unfiltered sunlight up in the sky. Now all I need to do to enjoy a nice flight is to wear a pair of sunglasses or fly at night.

Growing up as a kid I believe I was fascinated and frightened by other people's touch  on a higher level than most. As I've learned to mellow out my startle reflex I have grown to highly enjoy  a handshake or a hug, but I often deny myself  because of my clunky muscle movements or muscle spasms. I try to do what is right but I worry about how my sloppy movements are interpreted unlike anything else in my life.  

Several years ago I remember a night when a friend was in town and we went out with people I knew.   My friend had never met any of the other people before.  He ended the night with great hugs while I was in self induced exile. I was envious but I wasn't sure what people understood and I never want to make excuses for my actions.

I wish I had more courage in this area.  I hope it will come now that I have been open on the topic.

Once again I have no solution but know you are not alone in your problems. We all have them and they have a better chance of being solved if you set them free.

I need to take some of my own advice and rock out on my frequency. I prefer to reach out and connect with someone because everybody on the planet is family. Some will embrace me while others will push me away. Those who push me away just aren't right for my choir. Which is great because they can go find another musical act that fits them better.

Thanks for the free therapy!

Chris

Block Goggles & The Art of Knowing

Sometimes when it comes to solving my own problems I have little clue on how to explain them let alone solve them. I am not really sure if the points I am about to share make any sense at all but they've been floating around in my head for a long time and in the spirit of open and honest communication here it goes.  I  truly believe the universe will help me solve these problems because I am now being open about them. Before I get going I humbly submit you are more honest and open about your problems  because I truly believe God  wants us to lean on one another to make everyone better as a whole.  I haven't totally figured this out but I think these two topics belong on opposite sides of the coin and it works for them to be discussed together.

Block Goggles 

According to my wonderful friend Todd I have beer goggles on because I disagree with him on some topics. Nothing could be further from the truth because I have not had a drop of alcohol in nearly 2 years as a sacrifice for my athletic training. However I will agree I have block goggles on at times. I convince myself  of situations being different than they really are and in turn  this blocks me from possible success in the future. I wholeheartedly believe I deal with small failures well, but I'm still  working on figuring out the big failures of failed job interviews, failed tryouts and dealing with the opposite sex.  It seems  I am not capable of having accurate memories of these failures.  

If someone tells me they would like to hire me but they cannot at the moment that is not code for you are a horrible applicant now leave me alone! But I have an extremely hard time seeing that.  I go back to look at old emails and convince myself  of what a moronic writer I am. Sometimes it takes me three or four readings but I realize what I said wasn't as stupid as I originally thought. Through a lot of self inspection I realize rejection is not a failure most of the time, instead it is a step in the right direction however at times I still feel lost because I don't know how to get an outcome I desire.  

No real solutions here but maybe if there is somebody out there who is having a similar problem you can take comfort that you are not alone.  There are times when you must take the block goggles off and give yourself a break.

Go with The Know

I have been blessed with a pretty good brain inside my head so I know a couple facts,  but the kind of knowing I'm discussing here comes from a much deeper place that is not attached to myself but somehow we are all connected to it together.  I am talking about a deep deep belief that wasn't there one minute ago and all of a sudden it is absolute fact like the sky is blue and the Earth is round.   

When it comes to deep knowing I am certain these beliefs can become reality because of my college experience.  In the sixth or seventh grade we had to talk about what we wanted to do when we grew up.   I remembered  saying I wanted  to play wheelchair basketball at the University of Illinois. What is so funny to me, looking back at it, is I knew so little about wheelchair basketball at the time and even less about the University of Illinois. Still by 12  I knew it and by 18-22  I had done it.

An even longer held belief  is that I will be a US Paralympian.   I tried for many years through basketball never getting close to the dream and failed to make the US track and field team in 2008. The dream has not gone anywhere however I'm not completely sold on where it's headed. I love the sport of wheelchair rugby more then sleep or food  and pushing my wheelchair  gives me a sense of freedom and joy that I have yet to be able to replicate doing anything else.   I'm not at the level I need to be in either sport to make my dream a reality at the moment but in my mind's eye I see myself as one of the most intense, fit, and intelligent athletes out there who will make my dream come true. I am not where I want to be but I will be ready with time to spare in 2012 and 2016.  I'm stepping in faith and just saying "I know what I know."  There are only a few pieces of information that have ever fit under this category and there are still others I have not figured out.  

Everybody has their highest held dreams.  Hold on to them no matter what and make them happen!

I hope somebody gained something from this.

Thanks so much

Chris

Everyone Has Two Ears For Reason

I'm not really sure the first time I heard the phrase "God gave you two ears  and one mouth for a reason."   However that was a pearl of wisdom my mom instilled in me at some point in my childhood and it has stuck with me ever since.

I've tried extremely hard to be a good listener throughout my life.  From my feedback from the universe it seems like I do an okay job. People have a tendency to tell me things. Sometimes I want to hear them, while other times I would rather not, but I take a certain level of honor that people feel like it is safe to share their thoughts with me.

I know I fail when it comes to the idea behind the quote. I do not listen twice as much as I talk but I always try to listen as much as I talk, if possible. I believe in other posts I've shared how important  it is to be there for your fellow man and communication  is one of the simplest and most fundamental tools for helping out a friend, a foe, or a  stranger. 

For  long stretches of my life I was convinced I was some kind of social mutant who had such problems communicating with his peers that no one else could understand, however I eventually realized  all of us have some kind of problems and we are better off communicating it with someone we trust. We all feel more free when our secrets aren't secrets anymore. As my closest friends will attest my confidence since starting the blog is probably at an all-time high. I am who I am and there's not many secrets anymore. It's out there for anyone to read which is the same thing as someone to listen.

Have the courage to listen because it will make society a better place for all of us!

In the past I've been complemented on my ability to get things done and it has very little to do with me. I just follow the lead of wise people before me.  Treat all men and women exactly the same, with the highest respect.  Always say please and thank you  to the doorman, the janitor, or the waiter.   Take the time to say hello to those that most ignore and they will help you in time of need. If you ever build a rapport with someone  have the strength  to serve those who served you by listening.

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING!  I appreciate it greatly.

Chris

Merry Christmas To All!

I have had many ideas for posts brewing in my head but I do not feel many of the topics are appropriate to talk about on this wonderful holiday.  I love the Lord and am so thankful to be celebrating Jesus's birth.  I also love the joyous attitude this season creates in so many.  However the last thing I want to do is offend anyone who does not share my beliefs.  This is why I slightly prefer Thanksgiving as a holiday because it is so inclusive everyone can give thanks in their lives.

In the spirit of thanks and living I would like to repost something I originally wrote on December 2nd.  May God Bless Brenden and all the other angels in our lives we are and are not aware of.

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Listen to the Genius!

I have always believed wisdom can come from anywhere. In a metaphorical sense it does not matter what the book looks like just the pearl of insight it provides the reader.

An 11 year old boy named Brenden Foster from Washington was one of the wisest people on the face of this planet. He understood more about what human potential is and should be than most people who get the privilege to stick around for 10 times his lifespan. Several days ago Brenden lost his battle with cancer. I became aware of Brenden through reports from CNN over the past several weeks and I will be forever changed.

I humbly ask you to rise above the emotions of sadness and loss. There is no question this boy was an angel on short loan to us on Earth, but I did not want to get caught up in the tragic loss. Instead I want to focus on the wisdom of this boy’s words.

I must admit I'm quite apprehensive about writing this post because I'm afraid I can't do Brenden’s genius justice. However I take solace in the fact that he would be proud of my attempt in spreading his message to help others.

Brenden caught the attention of local media after using his final wish to organize a food drive that gave sandwiches to homeless people in Seattle.

His unbelievable compassion in the middle of his own pain and suffering was the first thing that struck me when I became aware of Brenden. He was able to look at the bigger picture and realize that there were others who were suffering too and he could make a difference. He did not just focus on himself with his wish. He spread positive action to others. He also had the courage to think big. Instead of just making a few sandwiches he wanted to make 500. As people became aware of Brenden's action it inspired food drives in other cities. That is the beauty of giving or positive action you never know the trickle down effect to measure the impact of a good deed or selfless act!

His last wish was not the only thing that struck me about Brenden. His words were also genius. When asked about his life he said “I had a great time and until it’s my time I am going to continue to have a good time.”

Shouldn’t that be the attitude everyone adopts for their life?

Then Brenden was asked by the reporter what makes him sad. Instead of a cookie-cutter response that might have something to do with his own difficulties his broader and more enlightened response was “When people give up.” At 11 years old Brenden figured out what some never do and most of us struggle to remember everyday. We must always push forward no matter what obstacles might lay in our way.

I will wrap up this post with another quote from Brenden.

“Follow your dreams! Don’t let anything stop you.”

Brenden Foster, Genius

God Bless you Brenden!
Chris

Please Reach Out!

 Today I had the opportunity to see the movie 7 Pounds. I promise to try to not give anything away about the movie but I would like to discuss a  common life theme I saw in it.

Please keep in mind I  have my own unique way of looking at things and sometimes other people will not see what I see. I humbly ask you open your mind to what I have to say but at the end of the day do what you feel is right.

A common theme I saw in the movie that I have also seen throughout life the last few years is every single  person has their own challenges and scars. Some can be seen with the naked eye while others need a deeper investigation. 

I know God or the universe has a way of putting the people we need in our lives. Every close friend I can think of just randomly came into my life one way or another.   Even during  times when I was actively searching for new friends; requests  were only  answered when I stopped trying so hard.

 For whatever reason actually getting to know a new person can be challenging and/or scary.  I  believe faith is paramount in situations like this. Please have the courage to reach out and make a connection.

 It is absolutely possible  you will be rejected but that is 100% fine. In my younger days I used to get so discouraged by rejection but I've learned relatively recently that rejection is perfectly fine. There is nothing wrong with either person in a failed connection they just aren't on the same frequency  and need to keep going on their way to find others that more accurately fit their path.   Through rejections in the past I have a much better understanding of myself and what I am looking for in friends. Please just keep fine-tuning until you've met the people that are meant to sing in your choir.

You cannot make the music of your life without a few failed collaborations.  Please  keep reaching out so we can accomplish all our wonderful dreams together! 

Thank you for your time on this wonderful holiday

Chris

My Favorite Verse

I believe everyday should be a holiday and that is why I enjoy people's festive moods during the holiday season.

No matter what your beliefs are the bible has many passages that are full of wisdom for life.

Even with the barriers of weather in certain parts of the US we must remember how blessed we all are.

As another gift of sorts here is my current favorite bible verse:

Jeremiah 29:11 (New International Version)

For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

We all have prosperous futures ahead!

Happy Holidays!  May we all be blessed!

Chris 

Family Is ...

Today is a pretty big day for me. I went to my local bookstore and bought the book where my first published story resides. If you want to see it as ink on paper look for the book Chicken Soup for the Soul: Twins and More Edition. My story is #58 The Triplet Raised by Wolves on page 200. If anyone just wants to see it electronically send me an email at chris.rathje@gmail.com and I will send it to you.

I think my story looks at the idea of family a little differently then the norm of blood relations.

Is this a new idea? No, but somehow I think it is more acceptable in today’s American society. The idea of family has shifted in so many ways.

Every person on this planet has billions of brothers and sisters because we are all in the giant family of human kind. My simple advice is approach everyone in a loving manner and make sure to be there for the people who have been there for you.

It is a simple idea that rings of beauty and truth, but it takes patience and a moment of pause to understand, forgive and accept everyone.

Know that family is about experiences and loving actions, not just who you share genetic material with. You don’t have to be a Rathje or a Nagel to be my relative. Have your arms open to accept the wonderful people that God places in your life. Nine years ago I didn’t know I would have brothers with the last names of Perkins, Taylor and Smith, but I do.

Thank you to everyone that contributed to this dream. This is just one step on a long journey. I must take a moment to really cherish and appreciate this accomplishment because I sometimes forget to enjoy the smaller steps on the big journey.

Can I ask a favor? Can we all take a moment to let out a laugh or put a smile on our face?

After all we are one big happy family who will make this world a better place. Let the labels go and just follow the love!

Thanks for reading
Chris

The Ultimate Gift

After watching The Secret On DVD a few months ago I was very impressed by a man named  Christian D. Larson. I did a little research and was able to find his creed.  It is some of the wisest words I have ever read and I thought it would make an excellent holiday present of sorts.  With a new mindset using this as a base I believe life can do nothing but get better in 2009. I vow to follow the creed better myself starting today.

The Optimist's Creed by Christian D. Larson
 PROMISE YOURSELF:

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect
only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are
about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater
achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living
creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no
time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear;
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not
in loud words but in great deeds.

To live in the faith that the whole world is on your side so long as
you are true to the best that is in you.

by Christian D. Larson, 1912

There is such pure genius here I do not want to muddle it with my own words.  It seems so obvious and so true to me.  I hope you gained something from it.

May We All Be Blessed!

Chris

Open up the Present

When I was very little I was an extremely anxious kid.  It was never more true than on Christmas Eve.  Each Christmas Eve I lay awake worried that Santa would find me awake. He would tell me I was a bad boy for not sleeping and I would get nothing but coal. I would get so worked up over the whole situation that by the time I was five my parents told me Santa wasn't real so I could finally get some rest.

 My nervous behavior put a major damper on one of the universal magical experiences of childhood.   Please learn from my mistake!  As  adults we do this to ourselves too.  Instead of enjoying the present day, uncertainty and all, we get nervous or worried about what could happen.

Please don't do that. We are all being taken care of by God and the universe.  If we follow  the rules of hard work and being good to our fellow man  we will eventually be rewarded with whatever we want.  Focus on the present and what you can accomplish in the moment.  Open up the present day to all possibilities through faith.  Life is  full of twists and turns but it leads you down the right path.

When I  was little I got excited opening up presents from Santa,  but now I get excited to open up each present day from the Lord.  I once read  something from Joel Osteen  which basically said God has a way of surprising us everyday but we have to be in a mindset to receive that surprise as  the gift it was intended to be.

I humbly ask to keep your eyes peeled and your mouth smiling so you can receive  your unexpected gift today and everyday.

Happy holidays everyone!

Chris

Fun With Elmer!

 I must dedicate this next story to my friend and neighbor Kelly.   If she did not bust out the Elmer's glue the other day it would have taken me a long time to tell this story from the way back machine.

 When I was in preschool and kindergarten one of my favorite things to do in the entire world was play with Elmer's glue. I was not the least bit crafty but I had an unusual way to entertain myself with it that adults had taught me.

 I started going to physical, occupational and speech therapy when I was 18 months old. As part of my occupational therapy during my toddler and later days  I was taught to rub Elmer's glue on my hands and then clap my hands together.   Once the glue dried I would pick it off my hands. It was truly one of my favorite pastimes growing up. I vividly remember sitting in front of the TV at my white and red desk picking glue off my hands several times a week.   

When I first entered a mainstream  kindergarten I was blissfully oblivious to the fact that I was different than everybody else. I never knew how to walk or use my hands properly so I never missed it.   In the first several weeks of  kindergarten we were working on art projects using a wide variety of supplies.   I had finished some drawing using markers and enthusiastically grabbed for my buddy Elmer's pick juice.  Without any hesitation I started rubbing  glue on my hands like I had hundreds of times before.   The girl sitting across from me yelled "What are you doing?" I proceeded to stare right back at her and give her a funny look like, everybody does this silly.

That was one of the first times I got an inkling that I might be different. As I got older different grew to be worse, less or  a negative connotation of special, but please learn from my mistake. If you do something differently than someone else you're just rocking out to a slightly different radio station, that's all.   Frequencies to life are how people go down their path; there is no right or wrong. It  didn't matter if other kids  were weirded out by my glue picking because it worked for me.

I talked to an occupational therapist that works with kids a few months ago and I asked her if they still  use the glue picking technique. She informed me that technology had advanced from that.   That made me a little sad.    I have a confidence in my right thumb  and forefinger that I just don't have in my other eight fingers.   I must thank my friend Elmer for his contribution to my success!   Have the courage to pick glue no matter who is watching.

Thanks for reading! 

Chris

From The Mouth of A D-O Double G!

 It is time for me to tell everyone about another one of my favorite quotes. I've told you about previous quotes from a Buddhist monk and a global icon like Oprah Winfrey but now I must tell you about a slightly less conventional piece of wisdom.

One lesson I have definitely learned is not to worry about where a pearl of wisdom comes from.   If something speaks to you go with your gut and use that knowledge in your everyday life when applicable. I was watching Late Night with Conan O'Brien a few years back when he had Snoop Dogg on as one of his guests.   I've always admired Snoop for his confident, calm demeanor. I know a wise soul rests within him but when he smoothly delivered these words I realized we were on a more similar frequency than I could have ever imagined.

 In the wonderful conversation  that flowed between funny man and rapper Snoop  just released  this piece of wisdom out into the world. "Don't put limits on your life.  Dream big  and you might never wake up!"   I was so taken aback by this phrase I found myself taping the episode when it repeated  so the phrase would stay with me.

This is what I take it to mean.  Life does not and should not have to be something we dread or worry about.  Follow  your dreams and go after them with full intensity.   If  your dreams are big enough and you work hard enough they will have a way of taking over your life.

As a former restless sleeper and prisoner of self doubt I promise you can and will overcome your thoughts of limitation and scarcity.  If it is the negative feedback of someone else playing back in your head please turn that radio station off and find music that will accompany you better through your journey down dream road.

If you are so full of happiness your life will soon seem like a dream.  Please do not misinterpret me, negative things and disappointments might still come up at times but the good times will outweigh them so much  the little noises or irritations  will not interrupt us from the slumber of our deepest dreams!

Thanks for reading.   Sleep tight!

Chris

Find The Fire!

 I'm not sure how to start this one but here it goes.   I keep getting  such wonderful compliments  about my writing from a wide variety of people.   Part of me  feels unworthy because I  have simply been  blessed.   Many people  could write what I've written but for some reason  that I do not fully understand God has chosen to plant these ideas in my head and heart.

 I don't think I've ever been that smart and I've definitely never been that athletically gifted but I've  always had one skill at my side.    I have always been hungry and I've always had a fire  in my belly.   The fire in my belly  has ebbed and flowed  throughout my life.   According to my wonderful friend Keith  this is normal but my perfectionist side still strives for more peaks.

 I believe the first time  I ever reached a maximum level of fire was during my freshman year of college. I was the worst player on a world-class  wheelchair basketball  team and  a scared 18-year-old  who  had convinced  myself at certain times that it would be hard to get B's and C's in college.   Many of the things I did in college  should never be emulated by anyone but it is undeniable that I wanted to be successful.   Nervous freshman Chris,  ugly black sweatpants and all, constantly worked or thought about working.   I even reached a point where I was three weeks ahead of schedule on my homework.  

Many  nights I only got four or 4 1/2 hours of sleep.   The only way I survived freshman year  was  the naps I would take with the lights and TV on so I would not fall asleep for more than two hours at a time and Friday nights where I would sleep 15 1/2 hours.   This fire was extremely inefficient  and silly at times but I vastly exceeded my expectations academically.

I never became the basketball player I wanted to be  but that led me down the path I'm going today.   Another time  I caught a maximum level of fire was when  I was trying to make the US track and field team in late 2007, early 2008.   I burned my  candles at both ends working out between 10 and 12 times a week.    I set the US standard for my class in four events but I failed miserably when compared to world standards.   I was not even allowed to go to the final tryouts.   If you asked me about the situation a few months ago I would've told you I was distraught but I now understand God had  different plans for me. 

Anger, frustration and sadness  led me to the worst injuries of my life but I've re-centered everything and  I am in great health both physically and mentally.   My career change to write full time has somehow refocused my dedication in every aspect of my life.   Somehow I am able to write until the wee hours of the morning and get up for a 6 AM workout easier than when I used to get twice the sleep a few short weeks ago.   I believe it is a gift from the universe for  following my dreams and pushing so hard.

 I know there's nothing special about me!   Everyone out there has the ability to find their fire.   I'm not sure if this is a complete list but here are a few of my guidelines to finding the fire.

1. Follow your dreams!

2. Figure out what is most important to you and do more and more of that. Eliminate activities that are filler or unsatisfying.

3. Even though you are focused on making your dreams a reality don't forget to help your fellow man.

4.  Be thankful! If you have the capability to read this you are doing pretty well in the grand scheme of things.   If  you are having a personal problem I promise you have everything you need to overcome it and your  life can and will prosper above your wildest dreams!

Lets go set the world a blaze together!  Go get what you want.  You can do it!

Thanks for reading!  I love you all.

Chris 

The Brotherhood of Learning

I would like to dedicate this post to the Chicago Bears wheelchair rugby team.  Thanks to Dan, Tom and Rob for letting me practice with them today!

The original title of this post was The Brotherhood of Rugby but I realized that doesn't fully encapsulate my point.  I was having a conversation with someone recently about how there is a certain beauty to having a disability because it transcends gender, nationality or socio-economic status.  If you have a similar injury to someone you have an instant understanding of his life that 99% of the world does not.  (I think I have made my point without having to go into detail but if someone wishes to know more just contact me.)

This got me thinking the disabled community is not the only place where this occurs.  In my own personal experience the IMC graduate program at Northwestern transcended so many common barriers of understanding.  Because of our common ground of marketing communication education I had the opportunity to learn from 79 wonderfully unique individuals from 16 countries!

If we are open to the abundance of the universe and able to find the common ground on which we all stand, the possibilities are endless!  

In order to make my dreams a reality I realize I need to push through my journey 365 days a year.  That is why I bought my new friend Mac and put effort forth to bring my rugby chair a.k.a The Dream Machine up to Illinois.

The sport of wheelchair rugby is an amazing tool for learning.  It is the one opportunity for quads to play a team sport and as a side effect players have a better understanding of their bodies whether they are newly hurt or have had this version of their body for their whole life.  The generosity of our sport never ceases to amaze me.  

Pushing in circles and throwing a ball against the wall only partially simulates our sport and I was eager to get some team practice time in while I am north for the holidays.  I just emailed Chicago and told them the situation and they welcomed me to their practice.  I have heard similar stories from  many before.

Thank you my brothers in learning for realizing we are all in this together!

Chris 

The New Question: Where?

The crew at fiftypeopleonequestion.com have posted new work!  The location is Brooklyn and now the question is "If you could wake up anywhere where would it be?"

This question sets the table for us to have a deep look into someone's thoughts through the portal of a simple question.

We see a wide variety of answers that represent contentment, excitement, creativity and even grief.

Since the first time I have seen the video I have had one definite answer but I would also like to go over some alternatives from different sides within in me.

My inner 4 year old wants to wake up wherever wheelchair rugby  is being played in addition to where his friends are so he can be goofy and loud.

My romantic side wants to wake up in a warmer bed then I am used to.  He is eager to see the face of an unknown angel that will change his life.

My creative side wants to wake up in a world where total strangers having a conversation is commonplace.  If people from all over the world could switch roommates every few days think about the better understanding of the world around us we would have!

Now for my main answer I want to wake up wherever I am and in days to come places I dream of.  I wish to recognize the current step in my journey while knowing my dreams are coming true sooner then I can fathom.  I want to wake up in places like New York, London, Hawaii, Buenos Aires and Auckland but in order for that to happen I must be appreciative of the current day and work towards the visions of my mind's eye.

In closing I would like to send major kudos to the woman in the blue scarf for her outside of the box thinking.  Thoughts like that are the catalyst for propelling society to new heights.  

Keep up the great work fiftypeopleonequestion.com!  Food for thought dreams can become thoughts and thoughts can become reality.  Therefore anything is possible if you remember your dreams wherever you wake up!

Sweet Dreams Everyone!

Chris

Words: Tools of Power

I have heard the phrase "whether you believe you can do something or not you are right" for several years now but I have realized it's full power relative recently.  

Our thoughts control our lives and thoughts are nothing more then words and images.  Simple phrases can propel us to success.  In my pre-blog days I was sitting in front of a word processor paralyzed with uncertainty.  I just kept writing I can do this, I can do this, until the inspiration hit me to write two and a half pages on various topics.

Did you notice at the top of my blog I wrote I am a writer.  At the time I wrote it I had never published anything but less then a month later I am being published internationally in the spring.  

We all have flaws and quirks but happiness and success are God given rights if we put in the work and take care of our fellow man!  Cancel the negative thoughts and own your flaws as vessels of humility.

Hi. I am Chris Rathje I am ridiculously happy most of the time, I'm klutzy, a poor driver and my hair is falling out but I have a right to my dreams and you do too!

I am going to write, travel the world, and represent my country in the Paralympics in 2012 and 2016.  The path might be hazy, but it is there.  God has planted these dreams in my heart since the 3rd grade.  Who I am argue?  I have always held out hope no matter how fleeting, but now my words match my deepest beliefs.

You have the power to say what you want.  Now go get it!

I pray for and love you all.

Thanks for reading.

Chris 

Push The Dream Envelope

Hello Everyone!

I continue to be amazed by the wonderful messages I am receiving from people from my past.  It warms my heart to reconnect.  Thank you my Herrick Spartans and DGN Trojans!

I had planned to write about different topics today but life had a different idea.  I have had problems with some of my new software that has left me rest challenged at the moment.  I apologize to my friends at fiftypeopleonequestion.com because I wanted to write about their new work today but I lack the mental agility at the moment.  Please follow the link on the side panel and check out their new Brooklyn video!  Their films connect with me on such a high level and must be seen by a wider audience.

I know the only way for a bad day to exist is if someone allows it to happen.  Things out of a person's control can go wrong but that person has the final say in what mood results.  I have reached the point in my life where I refuse to have a bad day.

I have had many people ask me to my face "Is this kid for real?"  Many people assume that my friendly disposition is false posturing but I strive to speak nothing but the truth.  When I was in a recent car accident  I said I had a good day because there was not a scratch on me and the damage to my car was relatively minor.  It's all about perspective!

Some of the biggest disappointments of my life occurred this summer.  I might not of had a bad day but I sure did have bad moments, hours and nights.  For my dreams to come true I have to wait for another four years and wait in God's time as other aspects of my journey get figured out.  I tried my hardest to send out positive energy during the day and let the tears flow at night. Am I proud of it? No, but we are human beings, we work on emotions not binary code.

Once I figure out how to deal with the bigger disappointments in life I promise to share what I learn but for now I feel pretty useless on topic.

Even though I haven't figured out the big stuff, I refuse to let small stuff get me down.  Yesterday I lost my A B C or D? post and had to retype it.  Sure I lost some sleep but I owe it to you and myself to go after my dream.  When I went to workout this morning I forgot my rugby gloves.  Did I let it stop me?  Heck no.  I used my winter gloves instead.  Did I scuff up my gloves and look silly in the process?  You bet, but at the end of the day I got my workout in.

In many people's eyes lack of sleep and working out in winter clothes is pretty ridiculous but in my eyes I was pushing the dream envelope.  I am one story closer to my book deal and one step closer to London 2012.

I challenge everyone to push the dream envelope!  I wish I could be more helpful in solving the big stuff but the negative energy melts for me when I plant good in the world by helping someone with a favor or write a friendly email.  No matter what mood you find yourself in today have the courage and fortitude to plant a friendly acorn because someday your mighty dream oak will stand tall!

Thanks for reading.

Chris 

A B C or D?

Today I had the honor to see the movie Slumdog Millionaire.  It is the best movie I have seen all year and I strongly encourage everyone to figure out a way to see it.  This movie is worthy of being best picture.  The movie tells the story of an 18 year old named Jamal who comes from an extremely low social status but finds himself on the Indian version of Who Wants To Be A Millionaire?  This once in a lifetime opportunity can forever change his life and those he loves.

Here are some themes that are wonderful guidelines for life.

Keep an open mind: This especially rings true if you have never met a person.  Assumptions and stereotypes are tools of ignorance and all they do is try to separate.  I am certain life is a team sport.  Always find common ground and uplift those around you.

The path of life turns into a beautiful tapestry: The moments of your greatest pain can directly lead to your greatest triumph.  Sometimes the twists and turns have no reason in the present but they are the building blocks towards your ultimate goal.

Always tell the truth: Sometimes pure or honest thoughts will be used against you or misunderstood but if we stay in faith it always sets us free in the end.

Hope, faith and love are the most powerful forces in the universe.  If we keep those in the forefront of our minds can we be stopped?

Have the courage to kiss the scar.  We all have them but we can't always see them.  If you know of a friend's weakness embrace them and show them they are strong regardless of some mark on the inside or outside.

No matter what letter appeals to you go with your gut!  It will always lead you to the right answer.

Thanks for reading!

Chris

Gravy For Everyone!

Hello Everyone

This past weekend I was blessed to find out that one of my short stories will be published in a few months.  Out of respect for the publication I will not be posting that story but it is time to share one of the many stories that star my best friends Dave & Adam.  

I am certain I could write an entire book on the Doctor and the Milkman but to be most harmonious with the purpose of this blog I wish to share a simple story that gave me a perspective that sticks with me until this day.

It was the spring semester of 2001, a time when a program called Scour could be found up and down the dorm hallways, which made music sharing and discovery of new music infinitely easier then any past generation.

Adam & Dave's older brother Brian and family friend Ryan stopped by with their most recent musical discovery a track titled "It's All Gravy Baby" by online rap group White Dawg.  For the purpose of this story the only lyrics that matter are the title.

Quickly the rag tag crew of the Weston first floor adopted "It's All Gravy Baby" as our favorite phrase.  Words like fine, okay, cool and no problem became obsolete.  It was all gravy, all the time for the final weeks of the semester.      After using the phrase for several days I had a Eureka moment.

Everything is gravy for me!

I was a premature baby and throughout the first days of my life the doctors gave me different odds for living the night.  After close to 27 years of life I realize I am playing with house money.   This allows me to appreciate each and everyday and it also gives me freedom to go against social norms because no one is an expert on my life except me.

This is true for everyone of us on our team of humankind.  If we are thankful for what we have and listen to our guts to take the right risks the possibilities of our creations are endless!

I am proud that  I took the risks to go to Northwestern and Birmingham but I have failed to listen to my gut so many other times.  We have all failed in the past but we have full control over our present and future.  Get a little more thankful and a little more fearless and get what you want out of life now!  Say hello to that person or apply for that job because even if that fails something better is in the works.

Set the radio in your mind on thankful and fearless radio and White Dawg is right around the corner letting everybody know "It's All Gravy Baby!  It's all gravy."

Thanks for reading.  Much Love!

Chris  

My New Car Named Mac!

This is an exciting day for me today.  I am writing my first entry on my new MacBook!  

Seventeen short hours ago I was in my apartment in Alabama and now I find myself working at the same table that I did throughout my teenage years and during school breaks and unemployment of my early twenties.  The table feels like an old road that I know well but my new laptop feels like a brand new car that I have yet to scratch the surface on.

My wonderful salesman Jeremy at the Apple Store came up with the great analogy that buying this laptop is like buying a new car because I will use it everyday and it can take me anywhere I want to go.  I have full faith this laptop will take me places I have yet to imagine!

I am not a materialistic person by most definitions but I wanted this so bad because I knew it would be a game changer in my life.  Earlier in my life I would have come up with reasons why I didn't need it, couldn't afford it, or I wasn't worthy of something so nice but that is over!  

Every single person on Earth is worthy of excellence if they are willing to earn it.  If there is something you have a burning desire to get figure out a way in love and peace to go get it!  It has the possibility to propel you and humankind to outcomes you can't even fully grasp yet. 

Not sure where Mac and I are all headed but I am pumped for the journey! 

Peace and Love

Chris